Wednesday, April 25, 2012

The Virgin Wife

I personally, am so fed up with Muslim Clerics trying to speak on behalf of our vaginas.

My most recent frustration comes from an artcile discussing how clerics in Saudi Arabia aren't letting women play sports because it might "break our hymens".

From Saudi Arabia, to the Arab/Muslim regions "proud example of Womens rights" Tunisia; womens sexuality is constantly being put at the mercy of men. I can't tell you how many times I've heard a Saudi man tell me he would never marry a Saudi girl who wasn't a virgin, and suprisingly enough the phenomen is all over our proud "women-loving" Tunisia as well. And, God knows how "pure" the majority of these men have been. I met a Saudi who bragged about sleeping with countless numbers of women, but when asked "oh so you're open about your wife being a Virgin" he laughed, and said "my wife will be a virgin, I don't want a slut in my house".

Well, since clerics only respond to "Bismillah" arguments, lets use Islam to explain why the "my wife must be a virgin" argument needs to be nipped in the butt.

Since this is an issue among all Muslim traditions - let's use the ONE source we all agree on - The Quran.

Example number one (From Abdullah Yousef Ali translation) :
Surah 24, Verse 3:
"Let no man guilty of adultery or fornication marry any but a woman similarily guilty, or an Unbeliever; nor let any but such a man or an Unbeliever marry such a women: To the Believers such a thing is forbidden."

This verse clearly states, that if a man has been sexually active, it is FORBIDDEN (7aram) to take any wife but one who has also been sexually active. Thus, the man who has had sex, in Islam, has no right to demand a virgin wife. Which is logical, a women who has strived to keep herself saved for marriage deserves a man who has put the same effort into abstaining. And a women who is not a virgin, does not deserve to be shoved aside by a man who also has had sex but demands a virgin wife - this is a perfect example of hypocrisy, a thing that all Muslims agree is not welcome in Islam.

Another verse to clarify:
Surah 24, Verse 26:
"Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure; and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness and provision honourable."

This verse doesn't need much explination, it's pretty clear and simple.

We can't test men for their virginity, the best attempt would be a lie detector test. And any doctor with half a degree could tell you, that some women who have had sex - still have their hymens, and some women who have not had sex - don't have one. It has nothing to do with virginity - beyond scientific arguments which so many clerics seem to ignore; the Quran just doesn't make a fuss about this issue. If you harass women to be virgins, you better be doing the same for men.

So men, stop being hypocrites.

1 comment:

  1. I agree. Allah knows what's up and explained it simply and to the point in the Quran. People need to really understand the faith totruly be Muslim. It's not a birthright, it's a chosen way of life in all areas. Keep it up, sister!